My son got a C in Art in quarter two.
He was upset because he tried his hardest and he didn't understand why this happened. He was doing all the things he thought he needed to do. This was my opportunity to go into mom and coaches mode to talk through it with him. As he and I were talking over text, I realized that there are powerful lessons here for entrepreneurs as well.
Lesson 1: You're going to have to do things that aren't our jam for awhile
At some point, we're going to have to do things that aren't our jam (zone of genius or what we enjoy). That's the nature of the entrepreneurial beast. Until that time comes, see what resources can help you make the best of the situation. Collaboration and value exchanges are super helpful to get this work done.
Lesson 2: Did we put in our best effort?
We're not perfect. No one is. Not even Oprah or Marie Forleo or Lewis Howes. We need to give ourselves grace and take responsibility. Did our launch suck because we didn't show up like we should? Then we need to own that? Did the launch suck but we gave it our all? Well, we did the best we could this time, give yourself some grace. It also leads nicely to lesson three.
Lesson 3: Shit happens. Let's move on.
It may be crass, but it's true. Dwelling in the negative and attending your pity party for one, in the rain with no umbrella, with no food or drink to eat isn't very fun, is it. Shit happens. I'm not suggesting that you ignore and put a fake smile on your face. Rather, I'm submitting to you that it happens, sit with it for however long you need to and then move on based on lesson number four.
Lesson 4: What lessons have you learned?
When things don't go as planned, do a lookback. We used to ask bankers to do this when I was a bank examiner.
What went wrong?
Why did it go wrong?
What's the root cause of the issue?
The answers to these three prompts will help you move forward.
Lesson 5: Fail early and fail forward.
I told my son, I would rather get a C in art in 6th grade than a C in art in 12th grade. Colleges aren't looking at the grades now. I'd rather make some mistakes now when the stakes aren't as high...when I'm not employing a team or risking hundreds of thousands. John C. Maxwell has a whole book on failing forward and how it can help you turn mistakes into stepping stones for success. Here's a link to the book on the 'zon.
Bonus lesson: Don't try so hard
This is a lesson I'm still learning. In an effort to be successful (for my son, it's getting an A or B, for me, it's building my biz and having time and financial freedom), we can try too hard. And if we showed up as us, the results could be different (and better).
I love the life and entrepreneurial lessons are everywhere. And, my son is okay with his C (it also helps that his final grade was a B and he still made honor roll...so bonus lesson 2: it all works out).
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